I’m not sure if I’d use my surname too. It would probably seem a bit formal to use my full name on here anyway. I was considering a link on facebook or my own personal site (when I’ve finished redesigning it!). My sister would definitely see it on fb. I don’t know if the rest of my family would though.

I wonder if I hadn’t have been repeatedly told that lesbians were disgusting then maybe I would have been gay. I am unsure though.

I also wonder if I’d fallen in love with a woman first would I identify as bisexual or gay? The fact I’ve fallen in love with a man first and don’t identify as straight may suggest the former, but I don’t know.

I tend to be attracted to women more too. Certainly sexually, I fancy women far more often than men. I tend to be close friends with men though and sometimes that can be a strong attraction. I guess I like each gender for different reasons.

Coming out is hard, but I had got to the stage where I generally found it easy with most people. The family are the last hurdle really. I *think* my sister knows, although I’ve never talked about it with her myself. I have some vague recollection that my bloke had told her though, but it has gone unmentioned.

If you lose your anonymity, would you give your surname too? Like, I go by my first name on my blog but I have no references to my surname, and I don’t advertise my blog on Facebook. Obviously if anyone bumped into my blog by accident they would probably figure out it’s me – personal content and how many people are called Karita?! – but having no surname on there reduces the chances (maybe) of people finding me.

I don’t think it helps because of my experiences at school when I was 11 and being told it was wrong to like people of the same sex, whilst I know this is utter bollocks I feel it’s left a lasting if somewhat stupid impression on my mind!

I sense my mum always knew I was gay, she often made lesbian jokes when I had extremely short hair (and I mean short!) which I laughed off, we often joked like that and I know if I’d ever told her I was she wouldn’t have minded either way. Dad probably wouldn’t give a toss either, he’d forget about it five minutes later and go back to reading his paper!

It’s still me though that has to deal with it and has to still have the Auntie’s and other odd family members or Godmother asking the have you found a boyfriend yet? Every time they call or I see them, which at 32 is getting somewhat annoying!

And I think you need to decide for yourself about whether you want to be completely out, or to whom you want to tell- maybe that hinges the decision of whether to censor yourself or not? It is a big decision to tell someone, I still get very hot and flustered telling someone! Good luck x